What is Stalking?
Sometimes when we break up (Definition • To bring or come to an end) Consider the following:
Alert to Common Traits of Stalkers:
It is imperative to be aware of various traits of stalker. These traits will alert you to the possibility that a friend, acquaintance, or stranger could become a stalker.
Stalkers refuse to take no for an answer:
Stalkers have been known to refuse to believe that the person they pursue is not interested in them. Also, as long as they continue pursuing their victim, the stalker convinces themselves they have not been rejected.
Stalkers believes in what is not real:
Some stalkers tend to convince themselves to believe their victim is interested in them OR thinks that the victim will renew their relationship. In addition, stalkers believe that their victim loves them.
Stalkers display obsessive characteristics:
Stalkers tend not just to be interested in but obsessed with the person they are pursuing. A stalker’s every thought is focused on the victim, and in the mind of a stalker their every plan for the future involves the victim.
Stalkers tend to display obsessive thinking, and other psychological or personality disorders. They may suffer from paranoia, schizophrenia, and delusional thinking.
Stalkers are generally above average in intelligence:
They can be highly creative in there manipulating planning. Stalkers also are known to go to great lengths to obtain information about their victims and who have secretly moved.
They have been known to hack into computers, tap telephone lines, take jobs at public utilities that allow them access to the victims' information or parents information and willing to travel miles and spend thousands of dollars to gain information. Stalkers many times use their intelligence to throw others off their trail.
Stalkers tend to lack empathy:
Stalkers don't display the discomfort, anxiety, or empathy that most people naturally feel in the above situations.
Normal individuals would be extremely embarrassed to be caught following other people, going through their trash looking for information about them, leaving obscene notes, and other inappropriate behavior displayed by stalkers. Stalkers, however, don't see these behaviors as inappropriate, but only as a means to gain the person's love.
Rejected Stalkers: are the most common and dangerous type. These behaviors involve stalking the victim even after the relationship has ended. Stalkers tend to acknowledge a complex, volatile mix of desire for reconciliation and revenge, which means using verbal and physical force to get their point across. Rejected stalkers have been known of criminal assault.
Intimacy-seeking stalkers: want an intimate relationship with their victim in the mind of the stalker they believe its “true love."
Predatory stalkers: Prepare for a sexual assault. They stalk to discover the victim’s vulnerabilities and seldom give warnings, so the victim is often unaware of the danger.
- The chances of a woman being stalked are an estimated 1 in 14; for men, it is 1 in 50.
- 46% of stalking victims fear not knowing what will happen next.
- 29% of stalking victims fear the stalking will never stop.
- 1 in 8 employed stalking victims lose time from work or school as a result of their victimization and more than half lose 5 days of or more.
- 1 in 7 stalking victims move as a result of their victimization.
- The prevalence of anxiety, insomnia, social dysfunction, and severe depression is much higher among stalking victims than the general population, especially if the stalking involves being followed or having one’s property destroyed.